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Prayer and Learning to Lean

The year was 1992. I was eight years old and had just finished watching the Summer Olympics. So I decided I was going to be a gymnast when I grew up. But first things first: I had to learn how to do a backflip. And I went to my school’s library, deciphered the mystery that was the Dewey Decimal System, and found a book on gymnastics. I flipped to the section that talked about back handsprings, read it repeatedly, and examined the diagrams. After school, I got my mattress from upstairs, brought it to the front lawn, and attempted my first back handspring.

Fast-forward a few frames, and now see me limping away humbled. Apparently, back handsprings are easier read than done, I needed practice. I had to learn how to depend on my hands to support the weight of my body as I turned over backward in midair.

As it turns out, you can’t learn (or teach) dependence didactically. Dependence isn’t gained by learning, but by leaning. Just as I couldn’t learn how to do a backflip by reading books, you can’t teach a church to depend and lean on God by propositions alone. Practice is necessary, and that practice is prayer. A church that practices prayer is more than a church that learns; it’s also a church that leans. And It’s more than a church that knows; it’s also a church that feels. We learn dependence by leaning on God together in corporate prayer.

Forced to Lean

Our church had to lean. The suffering early on in the life of our church made dependence on God tangible. Our first nine months weren’t full of weddings, births, new members, and conversions. The excitement that characterizes many church plants filled with a bunch of twenty- and thirty-somethings were found nowhere. Instead, it was as dreary as a Seattle winter. In March, a church member experienced the death of her mother figure and mentor. In April, my brother died. And in May, another church member lost his sister to cancer. On June 7, 2015, the day our church actually launched, we received news that my wife’s grandmother had just passed away.

The same rang true for July, August, September, and October. There were some high notes, like the October baptism of a fifty-three-year-old church member whose diagnosis of cancer, and God used this diagnosis and awaken her to her sin disease. But on January 30, 2016, this same cancer that introduced her to Jesus snatched her from us and gave her a face-to-face meeting with her Savior. We rejoiced when we baptized her, and we mourned when we buried her just a few months later.

Leaning on God

Life had crippled us. And Joy was elusive. Sorrow was near. In addition, we force ourselves to learn what it means to lean on God as we cared for one another. At the time we didn’t have words of wisdom or adequate resources to care for everyone’s needs. And we were ill-equipped to deal with burdens we have to commit to carrying. Through it all, we learned one lesson: when life knocks you down to your knees, don’t be so quick to get up. Instead, be quick to look to God in prayer. In the school of affliction, we learned to lean.

My question for you is this: Where do people actually learn to lean on God in your church? Is there a space for them to learn dependence? Is there a time set aside? Or is it assumed that people will take the instructions and diagrams laid out during the preaching and work out the dependence part on their own? Thankfully, we are not expecting to be innovators. We don’t have to come up with new strategies or plans to help people learn what it means to lean on God. We only need to be investigators of what God has already laid out. Even if we look in a cursory manner at God’s Word, we’ll see the solution is right under our noses.

Focus on the Obvious

One of the most important lessons I learned when it came to Bible study is in the acronym FOTO: Focus On The Obvious. Our first step in Bible study should be to look for the things that are plain to any reader. Don’t start with a magnifying glass. Start with an aerial shot. To understand the importance of prayer and leaning on God in the life of the church, one only needs to fly over the book of Acts.

To be clear, details are important. All of the Bible is inspired by God, and God carefully chose those who wrote it. And Luke, the physician who wrote both Luke and Acts, was meticulous in giving a detailed and orderly account of the life of Jesus (see Luke 1:1–4) and the beginning of the church (see Acts 1:1–3). He wants his audience certain about the things he learned.

Luke characterizes the church as a people of prayer. Even a cursory reading of the book of Acts shows us the prevalence of corporate prayer.

The Book of Acts and Corporate Prayer

  •     The disciples pray together generally and for wisdom in establishing another leader to take the place of Judas. (1:12–26)
  •     The church constantly prays together as the general rhythm of their lives. (2:42–47)
  •     Peter and John (together) go up to the temple during the hour of prayer. (3:1)
  •     The church prays for boldness in the face of opposition. (4:23–31)
  •     The church prays for the blessing of the selected leaders. The apostles stay devoted to corporate prayer. (6:1–6)
  •     Stephen, the first martyr, prays for the forgiveness of those who are killing him. (7:59–60)
  •     Peter and John pray together with the saints in Samaria that they might receive the Holy Spirit. (8:14–15)
  •     Peter commands Simon to repent and to pray that the intent of his heart would be forgiven, and Simon asks Peter to join him. (8:22–24)
  •     Peter prays and sees a woman rise from the dead. (9:40)
  •     Corneilus prays continually to the Lord, and God gives him direction for salvation. (10:1–8)
  •     Peter follows his prayer regimen, and God confronts his personal prejudices and limited view of God. (10:9–23)
  •     The church prays together for Peter’s deliverance. (12:1–5)
  •     Peter is delivered and comes to a prayer meeting. (12:12)
  •     The church fasts and prays for God to multiply his work. (13:1–3)
  •     Paul and Barnabas appoint elders and commit them to the Lord through prayer and fasting. (14:23)
  •     Paul, Silas, and Luke collectively go to a place of prayer. (16:16)
  •     Paul and Silas pray together in jail. (Nothing can stop these brothers from praying together.) (16:25)
  •     Pauls prays together with the pastors as he gets ready to leave a church. (20:36)
  •     Paul prays with the family of God before he sets sail to Jerusalem. This would ultimately be the trip where his resolve to die for Christ is put to the test. (Acts 20:24; 21:1–14)
  •     Luke, Paul, and the crew of the ship pray together as they fear being shipwrecked. (27:29)
  •     Paul prays for the healing of a man suffering from dysentery. He’s healed, and the rest of the people on the island come for healing. (28:8–9)

Last thoughts

See what I mean? Prayer is mentioned no less than twenty-one times in Acts. Furthermore, these prayers are inherently corporate. Whenever Acts mentions prayer, it overwhelmingly involves others. Even in instances when individuals are praying, they involve interpersonal relationships (e.g., Stephen prays for his murderers and that they will be forgiven and thus included in God’s family; Peter and Cornelius are brought together through their private prayers). Luke highlights that the church did more than learn truths about God. They really leaned on him. In Acts, Christians regularly gathered for prayer. Why is it that this kind of prayer is absent in many of our churches today?

This excerpt taken from Prayer: How the Praying Together Shapes the Church, 91–95.

John Onwuchekwa (MA, Dallas Theological Seminary) serves as pastor of Cornerstone Church in Atlanta, Georgia. He is a council member for The Gospel Coalition and a contributor to the book 15 Things Seminary Couldn’t Teach Me.


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